The Alienware hard drive rates at 5.9 (Windows Experience), while the RAM is at 7.8. Obviously, the RAM drive would be so much quicker for him.
This is comparing apples and oranges. A 5 rating for RAM is not the same as a 5 rating for the HDD. They have wildly different performance characteristics. Also, you shouldn't put much weight in the Windows Experience ratings, they're not very accurate. I've heard of cases where people have had SSD RAID 01 setups getting well over 1GB/s serial reads and writes only scoring a 6 or 7. Microsoft doesn't document how the ratings are calculated, making it difficult to compare scores.
Yet, how does one have PlayOnline update the HDD copy and have FFXI run from a RAM drive? ... Anyone have an idea how to have FFXI run from one location, but update to another?
You don't. You just set up the RAM drive, and use it like any other drive in the system. If your RAM drive utility can do automatic backups then it will handle keeping the HDD copy in sync with the RAM. However you should be aware that a power failure could easily corrupt the backup if there are pending unflushed writes.
Also I wonder how long ti would take to copy FFXI from the HDD to the RAM drive, but that could be in the background at boot time - except after an update.
This is hard to calculate, but assuming a fairly typical average of 150 MB/s sequential reads for a 7200 RPM drive, it would take
about 1 minute to copy a 10 GB FFXI install from the HDD into the RAM drive, excluding file system overhead. More realistically you might expect it to take 90-120 s, or possibly much longer if there's drive contention.
Yup, I'm not looking at a SSD...
You may want to reconsider. I really don't recommend RAM drives, they're a lot more trouble than they're worth, and you just end up wasting a whole lot of RAM that could otherwise go toward the file cache, or some other use. Like I said in my last post, just having the RAM improves the performance of the entire system. Whether you actively make use of it or not, Windows will. An SSD gives you fast, non-volatile storage. You wouldn't use it for everything, a traditional HDD is perfect for things like documents, music, videos and other data. Save the SSD for the OS, games and other programs.
1. RAID 0 is the fastest setup, but has no redundancy, so if any of the drives fail the whole array fails. It's popular among gamers, as a drive failure is generally not a catastrophe (you'd just have to reinstall all your games). It's not generally used commercially, except in some non-mission-critical applications, like as a file cache; RAID 5 or 6 is usually used instead for mission-critical applications. Some gamers use RAID 0+1 which gives similar performance to RAID 0, but can tolerate a single drive failure like RAID 5, however RAID 0+1 requires 4 identical drives.